Loving Without History - Part Five
For Couples: Teachings
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You and your partner struggle to feel deeply met by one another. You both have needs, but no matter what you try, they never seem to be fulfilled. You want to love one another with true devotion, but you are uncertain what that looks like.
In this compilation of teaching sessions from the February 2020 Valentine's Intensive in Malibu, CA, John asserts that you are most powerful in your capacity to love when you are loving without history. You are then able to be open, available, and devotional to the human being in front of you who wants to love you well.
If you want to do the “Warrior’s Work” to deepen the bond between you and your partner into true devotional love—beyond history—this 7-video compilation will be your comprehensive guide.
You will learn:
- If your desire is driven by a need to get something, you will never be satisfied; the only true freedom is in the giving of love.
- Your revealed heart evokes consciousness, attention, depth and a desire to meet you.
- The male nervous system is much denser than the female nervous system.
- The seed of consciousness is in the deep, unchanging part of your heart.
- At your essence - consciousness and love - you are perfect. You don't need to do anything to feel that. To be able to transmit that to the world, takes a lifetime skill.
- Masculinity and femininity are transmissions of the essences of love and consciousness that we all are. The more you can relax your body and tune to those essences, the stronger the transmission.
- You can be more open and available for connection, even if the connection is "I want to scratch his eyes out."
- Your value as a feminine partner lies in your authentic responsiveness to his consciousness in the moment.
- If you're waiting for your partner to be a certain way before you can give it all, you'll never give it all.
- Practices for good Masculine Leadership in your relationship
- Combining masculine depth with heartache can be magnifying to the feminine when you reveal the truth of your heart through structure
- The myth that in order to reveal your truth, you have to trust your partner first
- How to bring Dominance as a way to love your feminine partner without being tight or controlling
- How to express what you desire in any moment as an embodied invitation, rather than by making a direct request
- Why taking the masculine responsibility to plan and prepare is an act of love and devotion to the feminine
- The differences between how men and women cope with stress
- How you can liberate wounds in your relationship through bold response
- A twofold way to reflect on a relationship after it has ended to ensure growth: "here is where I could've done better", and "I did the best I could with what I knew at the time"
- A way to reconcile with your past partners by owning and acknowledging the impact of your actions
- How to structure a cleanse from the masculine or feminine
- How to detach and set boundaries with love
- What is "The Masculine Principle"
- If you do the deepest practice, the deepest possibilities in relationship will emerge
- How to practice and give to the deepest part of your partner
- It's a myth that the masculine always has to be in charge. Although most feminine beings say they want that, they would rebel against it. But the capacity to turn it on in a moment when love calls for it, is real skill
- The importance of owning the fullness of your own energy; and your own nervous system limitations to receiving energy
- Learning to listen to the murmur of your heart and let that come through your body in the moment is a very deep practice
- "No response" is not a response -- your partner will be lost if you don't respond at all
- Part of good responsiveness is being in the present moment; this responsiveness can be easier for the masculine nervous system to metabolize because it doesn't carry with it any resentment from the past
- If you're feeling something from the past, you can reveal it, but there's a difference between revealing it and collapsing into it
- If you want her deepest feminine, overcompensate with meticulous structure; If you want his most conscious masculine, overcompensate with energy
- How to identify a "No" in your partner's body
- You can be generous with love while in deep pain
- The importance for the Masculine to develop the sensitivity to feel your Feminine partner's Yes and No
- The importance for a Masculine partner to take 100% responsibility for the health of the relationship, and for the Feminine partner to take 100% responsibility for revealing the truth of her heart in the moment
- The Masculine Principle is clarity, direction, integrity, and consciousness
- The Feminine Principle is expression, response, movement, and love
- How to honor your physical capacity and limitations during yogic practice
- Why yogic practice opens a connection to the essence of who you and your partner truly are
- Why intimacy is "Warrior's Work"
- The difference between therapeutic and yogic practice
- Revealing deep pain and wounding can be a gift to your partner; however, expecting your partner to hold all of your childhood wounds can put a burden on the relationship overtime
- Tantra at its essence is to be a Yes to "what is" in any moment
- The difference between anger and fierceness
- A healthy dialogue structure to request feedback from the feminine in a polarized moment
- How you can evoke a partner's radiance and depth more fully
- How you can witness the beauty of the Feminine without being drawn into it
- How to recognize when you are relating from history
- Why the tantrum is a karma changing practice
- How to communicate feedback in a way that does not occur to your partner as criticism
- How you can claim your partner's heart exactly as they are, regardless of history
Disclaimer: Although anyone may find this video to be useful, it is made available with the understanding that we are not engaged in presenting specific medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual advice. Nor is anything in this video intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual problem. Each individual has unique needs and this video cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person should engage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, or general health only in consultation with a licensed, qualified physician, therapist or other competent professional. Any person suffering from a sexually transmitted disease or any local illness of his or her sexual organs should consult a medical doctor and a qualified instructor of sexual yoga before practicing the sexual methods described in this video.
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