Office Hours Group Coaching Call - September 21st, 2021
1h 37m
The thirtieth Virtual Workshop "Office Hours" group coaching call with John. You'll learn:
- Often underneath our complaints and habits are feelings that we avoid and aren't fully felt
- Babies are born feeling fully; through our childhood programming, we develop closures and withholdings that prevent us from expressing the same way we do at birth
- "All in" is about fully owning your own needs and expressing them honestly to your partner
- Stopping a habit of expressing from your Masculine when you want to be in your Feminine takes practice, like breaking any other habit
- To more fully embody your Feminine, slow down, move, and find pleasure or feeling
- A practice to inventory your habits of movement and notice how you might do something different to break the habit
- Getting into your body allows you to be with the truth of your feelings through structure and breath
- Deep practice is the integration of our messy, wild hearts and pristine consciousness
- Rather than focusing on finding the "right" person, focus on how you want to share your love
- A Feminine partner can offer feedback to a Masculine partner in a way they can receive it by asking, "Would you like to know what I would need to give my whole heart to you?" Then be honest and share in 1 sentence what you need & 1 sentence for what that would do for you.
- Declaring this, even if the person you share with doesn't become your partner, it speaks your need into the universe and aligns your transmission with those who would meet that
- Bringing immediate, playful, and honest responsiveness allows you to communicate in the moment how to care for your heart
- A "warrior" is someone who feels what's true with unconditional friendliness
- Feeling is healing - not just for you, but also for the people around you; it gives them permission to feel their hearts more
- The Masculine in all of us thrives when we are clear about what we want; this also relaxes the Feminine in our partners
- If your heart is in pain, you are out of integrity with your heart. Trust that if you're in integrity with your heart, others will feel it.
- The journey is the goal
- If you know your partner can't meet your needs but that they want to, try blasting your partner with love with no expectations and see if your needs are met in a new way
- Sometimes what we need is to give the thing we think we need
- If you're giving wholeheartedly without expectations and your partner resists it, practice "holding the pose" and see how long it takes for them to be filled with love
- Most of the time, the things that we need are in the giving of them, rather than in our receiving of them