Office Hours Group Call, Jan 15th
1h 31m
Start with some breath: Take a deep inhale in through the nose and a soft exhale through the mouth. Hold in. Hold out.
Talk a little bit about Reality: All of us have a distorted view of reality. Our essence is the divine essential nature in us. Our personality is filled with distortions and misunderstandings of self, others and the world. When in the right relationship with reality, we liberate vitality. It takes something (energy) to live in a state of delusion. Wrong relationship with reality, we are drained. Right relationship with reality, we have vitality. Most of our thoughts are bullshit. Our habitual thinking and distorted reality are not a problem, just part of being human. But there is vitality in the recognition of where we are delusional. Truth hunting is the blissful, ecstatic realm of the masculine.
Questions:
1. In a beautiful conscious relationship, everything is perfect. Why are they not living together? Is it because they have lived with others before and they know what it's like, and it hasn't gone well? She starts wondering why there is longing, and maybe they should be living together. Is it out of fear or love?
Find the truth and own it. "I am XYZ..." "No problem." When we are attached to how the desire should be met, we often run into trouble.
We can't complete the family system drama without living with each other. In deeper commitment, we get to play out and change the karma we were given. We keep doing this until we heal the wounds underneath. There are always deeper layers.
2. The days of waiting for a response to a text were excruciating.
Most of our suffering in relationships is caused by attachment. Waiting (or other experiences) shows us where we are attached.
3. On a masculine cleanse, had a slip, and reclaimed it. Asking herself what she's trying to achieve in this process. When does she know that she is ready and what transitioning to dating look like, and how to go about it consciously?
When things are not driven by urgency, it's more natural because that's who you are. Your fullness will want to overflow. Start slowly. No need for reciprocity.
4. Wanting to start a practice and container to support his wife in remembering her Feminine Essence.
Deepen into his masculine practice. Turn up the dials of your magnets to create juice.
5. How can he best support her when she is upset without using a lot of words?
Use words of comfort and reassurance with a lot of touch. When she is crying, she isn't crying from her age, but likely from 6-7 year old them, especially in relationships. We become our adaptive child. Nervous system and limbic brain before content.
6. Looking for more intimacy and connection with his partner.
Stems from childhood wounding. Why is he staying? Need to be with the truth of why he stays.
7. Freeing as soon as she is given a compliment after coming out of a masculine cleanse. How to work with this?
Inner dialogues. "I can't accept my own beauty... No problem". I may feel this way forever... No problem". "I'm considering to see how beautiful I am". Don't practice over the truth. Practice with the truth.