Liberating Love - Part One
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You and your partner are becoming bored with playing out the same relational and intimate dynamics and you want to open the floodgates for infinite love and electric attraction between you. Perhaps you’re familiar with embodiment and masculine/feminine energetics, but you need a beginner’s lesson to start building confidence for incorporating them into your relationship.
In this compilation of teaching sessions from the 2020 Depth & Devotion program, a 90-day Virtual Experience in the Art of Sacred Intimacy, John describes how embodiment practice is the key to shifting your karma and liberating more love and passion in your relationship.
If you’re looking for foundational teachings on embodiment and sexual polarity to create new possibilities of love and intimacy in your relationship, start with this 4-video compilation.
You'll learn:
- how karma lives in the body as body-mind habits formed through childhood programming
- when we move through the process of liberating our past into a new experience, we are moving from our karma (our past) to some kind of dharma (consciousness & love)
- this process must happen through the body
- your destiny is dependent on your capacity to wire new neural pathways
- consistent practice is important because karmic momentum is very strong
- you can only become an artist of love by continuing to create new possibilities of love
- embodiment practice done regularly, even for a brief time, will physiologically change you
- if you want to see your karma in action, look at your excuses and complaints
- changing your own karma shifts your lineage so that your children don't have to carry the karma of your family
- how the integration of the masculine and feminine shows up in nature
- how this natural integration shows up in our own bodies as sacred love
- the importance of taking responsibility for self-nourishment as a parent so that you can give love to your children
- a practice for feeling into your life from your own sacred masculine and making decisions from there
- the feminine needs a structure greater than their resistance in order to move through it
- a tantric practice for breathing in everything in your life that you are resisting and being with it fully as a "Yes"
- praise is recognizing the humanity in another human being
- the feminine in all of us wants to be seen and acknowledged for their radiance
- the masculine in all of us wants to be seen and acknowledged for their what they do or how they're being in the world
- praise is one of the most important practices you can master in relationship
- worship is recognizing and being in awe of the divine in another human being
- how you can worship the essence of another human being
- love is a completely self-generated possibility available moment-to-moment
- making love artful in every moment is the biggest piece of self-responsibility that we can imagine
- what you want most deeply - your true heart's desire - is a gift to yourself, the world, and everybody who wants to love you
- the things that stop you from getting your true heart's desire are generally things that were not your fault, and were passed down through your childhood
- self-expression is a muscle that needs to be exercised
- part of the artistry of love is learning to express through your heart and body
- the differences between selfish, healthy and sacred relating
- how complaining is a selfish way of quenching a desire that is not being met
- how healthy relating honors what both partners need
- how you can express your desire as an artful expression of what love wants in the moment
- how expressing a desire as love evokes more consciousness in the moment
- how expressing tears and "messiness" can be a gift to the Masculine
- after any practice, you can ask yourself: What did I learn? What would I have liked to do better? But hold this with: "Good on me; I did the best I could."
- shut down is an indication of the limitations we're coming up against at the edge of our capacity for the amount of love we can hold
- our capacity to hold darker energies is often weaker than other capacities, so you're not doing anything wrong if you feel challenged
- in sexual polarity, one partner is agreeing to relax their masculine capacity as an invitation for their partner to take the lead, but in the course of an evening, that may (and likely should) go back and forth
- we want to get to the integration of the masculine and feminine so that any moment can be lived fully
- the feminine is your experience of love, pleasure and feeling/sensitivity
- the masculine is your experience of consciousness and depth
- when you can marry the masculine traits of consciousness and depth with incredible sensitivity, you'll be a more artful lover
- the body-mind is our subconscious; our body takes the shape of the thoughts, feelings and beliefs we have all the time
- holding and running sexual energy through your body rewires your subconscious through your body so that you have new possibilities in your loving that weren't there before
- we go into a fight or flight mode when we become afraid of losing love and lose connection to a present moment; this is, more often than not, a subconscious action of our body
- an edge we often come up against is thinking things have to be a certain way in order to practice
- how to clear the pain body through practice to find a new possibility through your body
- taboos show up where we were shamed as children; our bodies clamped around those things, but the initial desires never left
- when you tighten in your body, it begins in your spine and your heart
- it is very common for fears and other emotions to arise when we begin to express our deep taboo desires
- the gold is in the part of you that is both nourished and freed as you accept the truth of your desire
- embracing the desires buried deep in your partner's psyche is a great act of love
- the textures underlying our taboo desires are, more often than not, reflective of what the world wants from us
- bringing resistance with pleasure can be a gift to the masculine
Disclaimer: Although anyone may find this video to be useful, it is made available with the understanding that we are not engaged in presenting specific medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual advice. Nor is anything in this video intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual problem. Each individual has unique needs and this video cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person should engage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, or general health only in consultation with a licensed, qualified physician, therapist or other competent professional. Any person suffering from a sexually transmitted disease or any local illness of his or her sexual organs should consult a medical doctor and a qualified instructor of sexual yoga before practicing the sexual methods described in this video.