The twenty-sixth Virtual Workshop "Office Hours" group coaching call with John. You'll learn:

- maximum "juice" in a relationship requires polarity
- the feminine is responsible for the heart that is responsive to the flow of love in the moment
- ruthless responsiveness from the feminine and ruthless compassion from the masculine will help to return your relationship to polarity
- responsiveness is showing how your heart feels in every moment—hurt, joy, frustration, delight
- the worst possible thing you can do to kill polarity is "chew" on things
- positive responsiveness is equally as important as negative responsiveness
- responsiveness, pleasure and your feminine heart's truth will inspire depth in the masculine
- your occurring world beliefs impact how you view and behave in your relationships
- if you want to evoke a certain energy from the masculine, you must become, "She who must be..." For example, if you want dark energy, you become "She who must be taken darkly" as an invitation
- as a feminine practitioner, some leadership is inevitable if you are the better practitioner between you and your partner, but you can keep the percentage of your feminine higher than your masculine
- when your feminine partner goes uber-masculine or habitual masculine, the way to "out masculine" them is to become more still than them. Then, when they notice their stillness, say, "I'm feeling you, my love." If they soften, even a little bit, then command them to do something. "Come over here and sit with me for a second."
- to be in integrity as a feminine partner is to be feeling what's true in your heart, even if it doesn't make sense
- the masculine "dance," is to lead your feminine partner and then read their response; if you find yourself in thought, go back to feeling them or return to stillness and then wait
- as the masculine partner, if you want to evoke something from your feminine partner, lead them there
- a reconciliation practice is a practice you can do to change the karma of your past relationships
- a masculine/feminine cleanse is a practice in which you drop the idea of relationship completely to fully meet yourself; you get to be with all of you and be okay with all of you, which will magnetize someone who is okay with all of you
- at the base of any deep feeling (i.e. grief, rage) is your love; practice placing part of your awareness on feeling the flow of energy that births the feeling; this is a way to deepen your emotional experience
- Tonglen is a beautiful practice to create a container for this. You can find this practice online (Pema Chodron has a version of this)

Practices Referenced On This Call:

Dark Energy:
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/dark-energy

Breathing in and Out Your Life Challenges:
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/masculine-practices/videos/breathing-in-out-your-life-challenges