This is a practice John taught live for his Advanced Practice Group at the February 2020 Valentine's Intensive. We recommend that you have experience with yogic intimacy polarity practice before attempting this. With breath, movement and intimate yoga, you will explore switching between masculine and feminine polarity. The agreements for this practice are no touch without express content, no kissing, and no exchange of bodily fluids.
To begin, determine a masculine and feminine partner and sit tall facing one another, looking into your partner's left eye (the receptive eye). You will switch roles halfway through the practice.
Each partner has their own breath practice:
The masculine partner does Tibetan Vase Breathing. They place their tongue gently on the roof of their mouth and breathe into their belly as if their inner body is a vase with a round base and a long flute.
The feminine partner breathes in rhythm with the masculine partner. On the inhale, begin to do a root lock (squeezing perineum, pelvic floor and genitals) and then continue breathing up the center column of your body tightening along all of your chakras. On the exhales, relax those muscles and imagine it opens everything around those muscles.
Once you have settled into the breath practice, feminine partner, begin to soften your heart and let it open as an invitation for your masculine partner to feel into your heart. You may fall back energetically in your body, which will make your heart a bit more exposed.
Masculine partner, feel your feminine partner's heart with your heart as it softens and blooms open, as if your heart could kiss their heart.
After a few minutes of this, the feminine partner can relax the breath practice. Notice if you have more space in the center column of your body. Then offer your breath to be matched by your masculine partner as you consciously allow the center column, from the base of your body to your heart, to become open and wide. Try to let go of a need to be rigid and offer your heart and the center column of your body to your partner.
Masculine partner, imagine you could kiss your feminine partner's belly with yours.
Feminine partner, allow yourself to be breathed and felt.
Masculine partner, notice if you are rigid or tense, or if you are bringing love through the structure of your breath. Imagine you are filling the center of your feminine partner with the love and consciousness that you are.
Feminine partner, show your masculine partner, through your eyes and your breath, the part of you that yearns to be loved and taken. Allow your breath to be pleasurable. Maybe even allow your masculine partner to feel through your eyes that they are in charge. From the center of your heart, make a sound that feels good.
Masculine partner, as your feminine partner offers their heart to you, take it. It's almost as if you step into their heart, and claim the part of their heart that they are letting you have. Feel the part of you that is a fierce demand for more of their heart. From this place of infinite consciousness that you are, let them feel that they can completely let go. Feel how deep, wide and beautiful their heart is. If your feminine partner is reticent to give you their heart, bring more love, adoration and awe to this moment, so that they willingly give you their heart.
Feminine partner, begin to find a little more pleasure in your body by perhaps moving your fingers up and down your thighs, and add more movement, breath and sound to amplify your pleasure so you can allow your masculine partner to feel it more.
Masculine partner, press your breath into them. Imagine you are filling their body with your consciousness.
Feminine partner, allow them to pierce your heart. Let them see the part of you that yearns for love.
In the last few minutes of this, feminine partner, feel the part of you that yearns to be ravished.
Masculine partner, feel the 'killer' in you that would ravish their heart. Feel the fierce part of you that is unwilling to take anything but their surrender.
Then begin to relax the practice, holding the utmost reverence and honor for one another.
You will now switch roles, so the former feminine partner will now begin the Tibetan Vase Breathing practice and the masculine partner will begin to relax open the center column of your body.
Continue the same practice in these new roles. As the practice progresses, if it feels good, the new feminine partner can come closer, so that your knees touch, or even sit on your masculine partner's lap.
Masculine partner, love whatever they give you. Ask yourself, "What else can you bring to this moment that would make it even safer for them to give more?" Be a demand for their heart from a place of worship.
Feminine partner, let yourself be worshipped and offer your pleasure as a gift to consciousness.
As the practice comes to an end, masculine partner, continue to caress your feminine partner's heart with your breath and your attention, as if it were the most beautiful gift you've ever received. Then gently release contact. If they are sitting on your lap, help them back to their own seat.
In the last few moments together, bring deep reverence for whatever your partner brought. Let them feel your awe, worship and deep appreciation. Feel the part of your partner that is pure consciousness and pure love, and rest in sacred union - love and consciousness coming together as a gift to the divine. Close the practice with a bow to your partner, thanking them for their practice.
You will finish with each partner giving two pieces of feedback to one another: 1. What you loved, and what you would've wanted more of, from their feminine practice; and 2. What you loved, and what you would've wanted more of, from their masculine practice.
Then close your eyes, place your right hand over your heart, and give your partner a silent blessing.
Music used for this practice: "Dolphin" by Gabrielle Roth & The Mirrors
Disclaimer: Although anyone may find this practice to be useful, it is made available with the understanding that we are not engaged in presenting specific medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual advice. Nor is anything in this practice intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual problem. Each individual has unique needs and this practice cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person should engage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, or general health only in consultation with a licensed, qualified physician, therapist or other competent professional. Any person suffering from a sexually transmitted disease or any local illness of his or her sexual organs should consult a medical doctor and a qualified instructor of sexual yoga before practicing the sexual methods described in this practice.