You may have experienced, or are currently experiencing, a relationship culture that enables pent up resentment, defensiveness, or disrespect. You want to create a culture that upholds love and mutual respect at the forefront, which means fostering repair as a core value. But you don’t know where to start.

This video is a demonstration by Nicholette Routhier and Erin Kinney of three practices for clearing emotional charge that John taught in his 2019 Embodied Women's Relationship Immersion: a judgement clearing practice, a withhold clearing practice, and an embodied clearing practice. These practices can be learned by anyone experiencing a charge, in life, or in a specific relationship, and used as often as you’d like.

The first two practices can be done directly with someone you want to repair with. The third is meant to be guided by a neutral, loving witness to give you the ability to practice moving from a self-centered complaint to a sacred, embodied expression of a deeper desire or intention underlying the complaint, in order to free more space for loving, honest communication in your relationship. There is a pdf worksheet that accompanies this video in the "Homework, Practices and Resources" section of the Virtual Workshop.

If you are ready to create a culture of repair in your relationship, this 26-minute video and the accompanying worksheet, will be thorough guides.

Disclaimer: Although anyone may find this practice to be useful, it is made available with the understanding that we are not engaged in presenting specific medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual advice. Nor is anything in this practice intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional, sexual or spiritual problem. Each individual has unique needs and this practice cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person should engage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, or general health only in consultation with a licensed, qualified physician, therapist or other competent professional. Any person suffering from a sexually transmitted disease or any local illness of his or her sexual organs should consult a medical doctor and a qualified instructor of sexual yoga before practicing the sexual methods described in this practice.