Breaking down the 3 stages of David Deida's work:

Stage 1 - Concerned with ourselves - me/my needs/what I want. They are healthy and unhealthy. Healthy - adult human needs that come from adult consciousness. Unhealthy - evoke the things that we don't like. Unmet needs and desires from our childhood experience. Results in us pointing towards our partner as saying, "you're not giving me what I want," The same as what you didn't get when you were a child. It evokes their first stage. Now we are in a power struggle.

Stage 2 -Focused on the healthy exchange and care of each other. It is about the health of the relationship ie - go to couples therapy. In the end, it is not enough. No art is being made in love here. Also, the realm of healing - personal and relational ie Imago dialogue. It is important to move to the second stage.

Stage 3 - How do we make Art out of our love, a moment? How do we serve the divine, the field of love? The field of love that holds the relationship.

1. The overlap of Embodiment/Yogic Practice and Therapy

2. Recurring pattern of unworthy and not enough. A belief that she is wasting her life.

Work with what is true - the you beneath all of the story, all of the freeze, she is the key. Presence with self is the foundational practice for all other practices.

Self-abandonment and disconnection from the divine are painful.

Let ourselves get help - this is hard to do on our own. It can be 5 minutes (one song - we can all do one song) and expand from there.

3. Overwhelmed in love and wanting to run (child consciousness) versus being with the truth - "I am Afraid."

Life shows us what work is that we still need to do.

What is underneath the desire to run?

4. Breathwork Practice Suggestions

5. Count breath to balance CO2 on O2 and regulate your nervous system.

6. Feeling underwhelmed in the relationship. Rupture after a conversation - avoidance kicked in: "Are you my person?"

Get clear on what the needs are that you have not expressed.

Reveal what is true and build a relationship based on authenticity.

7. Uncertain in sex.

Invite him into your energy.

How do you make your body an invitation to be felt? "Feel me". Make your body the invitation of "Feel Me."

8. Advice for deciding - Do we stay or do we go?