John begins the call discussing the 4 pillars from his new book.

They are:

1. We need to do our own deep work - requires you to take an examination of yourself

2. Devotion to love itself - the field of love. What does love want in this moment to flourish? This is often in conflict with what we want.

3. Intimacy itself - the removal of space between you and another. The sameness between you.

4. Erotic Magic - amplify the differences. Create an arc of sexual energy. Realm of Temple nights etc. Creating magic between two people above and beyond just having sex.

All of these are constantly intertwined.

These pillars are the difference between an evolutionary relationship and one that is more karmic.

Q&A:

1. Tension in the relationship in which the feminine in the relationship feels attacked by feedback from the masculine. (this goes either way for the masculine and feminine within each partner)

The feminine needs to feel secure for it not to feel like an attack.

Need the masculine overarching the situation - brin in structure and consent

Structure: Terry Real Feedback Wheel - Learn more at https://terryreal.com/

Pillar: Field of love - We have to be more committed to the field of love than our own experience.

2. One partner is avoidant in a moment of conflict and one wants to resolve and bring completion and get back to what was.

If someone is avoidant it is usually because either they think their needs won't get met or they will be overwhelmed by their partner's needs.

Have a 3rd party help you come up with an agreement of how to resolve conflict.

Voice what resolution would feel like for you - Avoidance often lacks empathy and so the other party doesn't feel empathized with.

Pillar: Field of Love

3. How to deal with reactivity to triggers from a parental relationship.

Teachings: Write a letter to your Mother or Father -

https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/82-the-power-of-writing-a-thank-you-letter-to-your-father

https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/60-writing-the-father-letter

PIllar - Do our own healing work

4. Feels like he is giving more and feeding the field of love.

Distinguishing between a healthy and an unhealthy first stage moment?

If you pull the string of "What about me?" it is way older than your time with your partner.

Practice - Clearing, Clansing and Nourishing https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/feminine-practice-clearing-cleansing-nourishing

Marching Anger Practice - https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/marching-anger-practice

Practice - Fists of Anger https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/fists-of-anger

5. How to navigate the habit of merging with a partner and staying with and returning to your centre.

Pillar - Field of Love + Do our own work