Office Hours Group Coaching Call, July 9th, 2024
1h 31m
What does it mean to love unconditionally and what a challenge it can be as love tends to have conditionality (separate from codependency) The act of love, keeping heart open and front body soft. Devotion to somebody. Not unconditionally staying in situations that are not good for you. The moment to moment act of loving unconditionally. Let love come through you in the moment in all the ways that it wants to - not just warm - it can be fierce. When we close, the way we view the moment shifts. Unwind the automatic "Whoosh" - like a zipper. When we do that many times it becomes oury body mind habit. Requires us to practice opening and relaxing - move from the mind to the wisdom of the body.
What do you do in the moment?
1. Relationship with flipped polarity - The feminine and masculine in our different "bodies" ie. emotional, energetic, physical etc.
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/doing-a-masculine-relationship-reconciliation
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/the-relationship-reconciliation-inventory
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/06-the-power-of-reconciliation-a-discussion
2. Her needs are feeling like a burden and there is an endless checklist and he is losing some joy - Differentiate between her actual needs and her requests. The checklist is not the actual need. The need is much deeper.
3. Body closing during erotic pleasure practice after a trauma -
4. Abandonment wound that was triggered in a separation - Allow yourself to cry your eyes out
5. Needs support with feelings of anger - First thing first - take care of your feelings or they will show up elsewhere as addiction etc. Takes a lot of energy to dam up energy. It just needs to move.
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/fists-of-anger
6. How to open and work through blockages (numb feelings) -
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/feminine-practices/videos/opening-as-relaxation-and-pleasure
7. More clarity around his relationship with his ex wife and co-parent - process more or just move on - two questions: can you meet each other's core needs, and what would you need to come back together?