John began this call with a breath that is meant to massage your nervous system and move you towards a parasympathetic state. As you inhale, imagine you are sucking your breath in through a straw, and as you exhale allow your jaw to open in wide relaxation. Envision your breath moving through your center column, allowing love to permeate deep into your system.

John then spoke briefly about how we are always evoking from others. The idea that our state of being (openness, closure, tension, relaxation) is always transmitting a frequency that impacts the environment around us. How do we affect the nervous sheets of others - how do we impact our environments? Can you begin to track it as a practice - particularly in your romantic relationships. This Does not in any way imply a need or goal of perfection.

He then spoke about how Claire brings out the best in people. Can you use this as a reflection and ask yourself, “do I bring out the best in those around me?” And if not, how can I change my frequency to evoke the best in others when they are in my presence.

Questions discussed include:

1. Loss of self in mothering - Feeling alone, that no one wants to help her, that she is not supported.

The practice to work with here is Grief without thought.

• Direct the flow of energy
• Commit to your own state as if you and your children's lives depend on it - do anything that takes you out of the crunch
• Make moment to moment happiness a must

2. How to ensure each other's nourishment needs are met in a long distance relationship of 5 years - is it appropriate to open the relationship?

Discussion included commitment to starting with each other what their needs are.
• Is what are partners are asking of us is good for us - would fill us out as humans
• What does love want? Would opening the relationship serve the love?
If yes - how do you do so so that everyone feels safe and free

3. Masculine to Masculine reconciliation. There is a fear and hesitancy - ask yourself this - What if you haven't forgiven yourself - can you still reconcile? Part of that is because you haven't faced it - so the facing it can be part of the reconciliation

• It is crucial, and even more important to do the right thing even when you feel shitty about it.

Reconciliation Information and Structure
https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/videos/the-relationship-reconciliation-inventory

4. Questions regarding Masculine Self pleasure practice

5. How to move through past resentments to that everyone feels seen and heard and so that the energy can be cleared.

• Get rid of the old stuff so that love has clear space
• Deepen your own practice

https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/repair-past-resentments/videos/43-step-by-step-guide-to-repair-past-hurts-and-resentments

https://johnwinelandstreaming.vhx.tv/repair-past-resentments/videos/imago-intentional-di alogue

6. She feels anger towards him about things that he is not doing. This is following a reconciliation in which they chose to start fresh in their relationship.

• Is there something deeper than her complaint that is the real issue that is coming out in the pokes?
• She is always going to test you on your presence
• There is likely still healing and resentment work that they have to do

• Terry Real Feedback loop - give river banks to the big river that wants to come through
• Good masculine leadership recognizes the energy that is coming and builds and finds artful ways to move it.

Self expression + self reflection and responsibility